Hate
Written by Major Tom
Filed under: Personal and Family
July 17, 2007
Bing of Warmstone asked me the other day about the things I hate. I’ve been asked about the weirder aspect of my being and the things that I adore and I soundly responded to them in this blog. But on things or circumstances that I HATE, I have finally become a bit tentative realizing that hate and anger are never superlative emotions and are meant to be hidden and tucked underneath carpets and behind closed doors, to never ever wash dirty linens in public’s view—as some anonymous guy or gal once advised.
Come to think of it, the feeling of hate is so extant and pronounced in our daily lives that we could not help but recognize it as one fact of life that we could never ever escape from, like the wind we breathe. Without hate, we are nothing. Just like love.
We all know by know that love—as against hate—is one that this world needs, and one that makes the world go round, according to not-so-anonymous guys and gals like John Lennon, Mick Jagger, Boy George, priests, evangelists, imams, monks, rabbi, teacher, lawyer, hermits, bike riding hippies, Steve Jobs and Bill Gates when they were still hippies without bikes, presidents and head of nations, freedom fighters, prize-fighters, poets, essayists, storytellers, sages and pretenders alike, DJ on the radio, the comedian on a late TV show, actors and actresses, madmen and scientists and of course, each and everyone of us, such as I am, for I believe in LOVE and LOVE does make life much more bearable than what it is.
And then of course, by prophets and messengers—most of all, by the Lord Jesus Christ who have pronounced so well to “Love one another like I have Loved you”.
Then it comes now for us to inquire that like the feeling of LOVE, did God have designed HATE to be so part of us and be that profoundly inevitable? Why it is to be and to what purpose or benefit does it brings us? Wouldn’t it be nice to live in a world without hate and anger, and to love and have loved all the time?
On deeper thought, love, love and everything love could make our world such an unusual place to live in—people always smiling, always laughing, always caring and condescending that eventually, there’d be a time where we would often ask strangers, “Are you talking to me? Are you sane smiling at me like that all the time? Why are you smiling at me of all people?” Get the hell away from me!
Hate eventually becomes a fact of life that had been inculcated in us in order to usher a more balanced and normal existence; to put things into a viable fulcrum, like a man trodding a narrow bridge, to have balance from left or right because too much of weight on the one single side would make him fall into the muddy water below. Just like night and day, without night, Nature would wither by constant warmth, or without day, Nature freezes into complete depletion.
I realize all to well that the existence of HATE in one man or woman allows others to be of caution when interrelating; in order to realize that every man or woman has hate and therefore one should not easily trample upon him or her, to spit on his or her face, for that man or woman has some form of emotion called hate or anger, that if such insults would go unmitigated anytime soon, some repercussion would entail. I have HATE, therefore be of prudence not to ever spit on me. I have Hate, therefore I am.
Of course, Hate is not one sentiment that we should harbor like a child, to ever encourage it, for unreasonable and irrational hate would lead to self-desecration, self-destruction even. We have seen how the hate of one man, multiplied into thousands of blinded soldiers or armed men (women) has caused so much trouble in our world. Perhaps like LOVE, too much of it is certainly an unideal proposition. But if you ask me, I’d rather be loved too much—much too much if possible—than be hated so entirely.
Now let’s go back to Bing’s tag about the things I hate and sadly, I do hate, like the following:
- 1. I hate laggardly men and women who do nothing worthy.
- 2. I hate doing nothing.
- 3. I hate those who are shoddy in their task and duties.
- 4. I hate those who covet the possessions of others.
- 5. I hate those who are highly of unethical conduct.
- 6. I hate having no money (do I have to say this?).
- 7. I hate being harassed.
- 8. I hate being fooled around and cheated.
- 9. I hate noisy people—noise without purpose that is.
- 10. I hate having to do something not of principle or of bad deed.
Perhaps, there are many other things or facts and circumstances that I hate or perhaps some of those listed above could not really be of hate as we know it, but merely by aversion and dislike.
I can list many other things I am sure. But please be assured, I have more LOVE than HATE. At least, I’d like to believe it to be that way.
So what are the things you hate?
Oh my! I agree with most in your list. But your #6 is my #1…lol. The root cause of my hypertension.
Comment by ipanema — July 17, 2007 @ 8:08 pm
To ipanema: My former boss told me once that money, like love, makes the world go around. I wonder if in fact this is true but I’ve got clues that somehow proves my boss’s theory. Without love, we are nothing. Without money, we are….nothing?
Comment by Major Tom — July 17, 2007 @ 9:27 pm
Hate Crimes is now under our criminal code, that is promoting hate, and I still can’t figure how the crown will figure such charges. they already did charged and convicted a few fellon but mostly on racial grounds, other than that it is mostly emotions.
me, i also hate having no money, but now i learned how to roll after having none for so long and i’ll be rolling maybe til the end of time. other than that keeping one’s health in good shape just about get rid of most of the “hates”.
Comment by vic — July 18, 2007 @ 6:50 am
To vic: Hate crimes as I believe had been such a modern-day phenomenon that as you said, laws specifically designed to combat it had been enacted in many countries such as Canada. When different races and nationalities collide in melting pots like Canada and America, such occurence often happens.
In our area, hate crimes have not been as patent and not often occuring.
It is sad though that in places like Canada, symptoms of race maladjustments still do persist despite that it is touted to be the country to be the most adapted to racial interractions—much better than America, Australia and Great Britain. I hope this still holds true despite the occurence of hate crimes once in a while.
Comment by Major Tom — July 18, 2007 @ 7:36 am
Like the first two commenter, I too hate being broke.
Comment by snglguy — July 18, 2007 @ 7:39 am
To sngl: This reminds me of a friend who always have in his dialogue, “If you have problems, just tell me I might be of help. Except financial problems.” That’s always in jest but that tells us that money or lack of it is really a problem many of us haunts or fear from.
Comment by Major Tom — July 18, 2007 @ 7:44 am
Well, I have heard it said that Hate is the flipside of love…I guess one of the reasons we hate is because of self-love, that is, if anything affects our “self” negatively, we hate it (or him/her). Anyways, at the moment, I hate the fact that I have no internet connection where I am staying!! Grrr…
Comment by Gypsy — July 18, 2007 @ 12:10 pm
To Gypsy: Quite poignant observation. I reckon also that Hate is a form of self-defense, for self-preservation and self-protection. Although too much of it would be destructive, just like anything—like life supporting lelement called water; it’s so beneficial to us but too much of it could kill.
Oh, I hope you’ll get connection at the soonest time possible. For a blogger like us, no connection is such a bad, bad thing.
Comment by Major Tom — July 18, 2007 @ 1:37 pm
Hate is a powerful word so I rather use ‘dislike’ although I do agree that there are certain pet peeves which merit a powerful word. For instance people cutting in line and/or people talking at the movies.
Comment by Daphne — July 18, 2007 @ 2:00 pm
To daphne: I realize this too somehow that “hate” is such a strong word and may be used often for lack of better term. Maybe “dislike” or “aversion” would be just apt and proper.
Comment by Major Tom — July 18, 2007 @ 2:19 pm
I hate our server right now because it’s sooooo slow!
Comment by verns — July 18, 2007 @ 3:03 pm
To verns: Now that’s just one thing I hate..or dislike…or abhor….it could actually drive me crazy at home…
Comment by Major Tom — July 18, 2007 @ 3:31 pm
Major Tom,
Although hate crimes are very rare occurence here, the government already had measure in place to avoid becoming a problem in the futurte, especially in major cities that communities still warring within their home countries or between countries are all substantially represented here. example of which are the tamils and the sinhalese, the Jews and the Arabs(Palestines),etc. And I remember the old days when the Republic Of China (taiwan) and The PRC were still protagonists that Chinese and Chinese were screaming at each others. Now, everyone who harbour hatred can only do them at the privacy of their own minds, privately and individually..
Comment by vic — July 18, 2007 @ 9:54 pm
strong word — hate. nevertheless a word we can’t do without. I hate being helpless…
Comment by pining — July 19, 2007 @ 1:27 am
Without hate, there will be no love. We need to have a balance in life.
Comment by Schumey — July 19, 2007 @ 8:43 am
To vic: This is a very positive development and I hope other countries would follow suit. I have a feeling that Canada seem to be at the forefront in tacking these nascent and modern-day issues—like putting up a special agency to combat greenhouse gasses—and for that, it becomes a model state for others to follow.
Comment by Major Tom — July 19, 2007 @ 8:47 am
To pining: Too strong a word indeed but I doubt if we could ever evade it–it is a reality like the air we breathe.
Comment by Major Tom — July 19, 2007 @ 8:49 am
To schumey: That’s what I am pointing at Schumey and this is what I believe; if there’d be Light, Darkness ensconses.
Comment by Major Tom — July 19, 2007 @ 8:51 am
lol major tom…yes, without money…nothing pa rin ha? Basta ako ang hate ko pag walang pera, hindi tao. Mahirap iyan.
Comment by ipanema — July 20, 2007 @ 9:36 am
hi, major tom. thank you for obliging. sorry to have responded late. been up to so many things the past few days.
eneweiz, it’s like saying i hate having not enough time for everything that i wanted to do.
everybody hates having no money.
Comment by bingskee — July 22, 2007 @ 9:59 pm